When you realize you haven’t met your soulmate 

When you realize you haven’t met your soulmate 

You realize this person is not the one 

They emotionally drain you,

It’s quite painful because you become accustomed to them 

As if they should be that person

You’ve dedicated time and energy to some waste of a time 

They are clearly not your soulmate when they flake on you

They never want to go out with you and your friends 

They call after hours 

They expect you to pick up every call 

&& they don’t work with you, but against you. 

They are not your soulmate if they make you cry 

Or even shy when you are brighter than the sun 

They make you fold and seem as if you’re too much 

When it is not you but them. 

You begin to think and rethink every thing you want to say 

& that is emotional abuse 

It’s when they are inconsiderate of your time and too blind to see it. 

Run away 

They are not your soulmate 

You don’t need them. 

Run 

Please far away

Happy First Day of Kwanzaa!!

Hello all! Today is the first day of Kwanzaa!! The journey begins…

FullSizeRender-5Tonight we lit the black candle that represents the people that trace their heritage to Africa .  First, I asked my boyfriend “Habari Gani?” which is Swahili for, what’s the news? He answered, “umoja,” and then shared a relfection. Then, it was my turn and his cousin was over so he also shared in the celebration. My boyfriend and I reflected on what unity meant to us and what we can do in our community to promote more unity. This was a difficult question for my boyfriend and I. We ended up reflecting for almost an hour. We live in a pretty broken down community that can easily push one to give up hope because of how our neighbors treat others and what we see on our block. We came down to the conclusion that we will focus on creating unity in our own family and let our positivity extend to those we encounter daily. We always make time to greet the bus driver, store clerks, etc in our community and we will continue to do so. Little things like this will allow us to not convert to an individualistic state of mind.

If you didn’t know the day 1 principle is‪#‎UMOJA‬ (OO-MOE-JAH) it means unity to strive for and to maintain unity in the family, community, nation and human race. Our action is to build a community that holds together.

The seven candles are called Mishumaa Saba, which represent the Nguzo Saba (each of the 7 principles). The red candles represent our peoples’ struggle and the green candles represent hope.

Since my boyfriend and I don’t have children the two ears of corn(‪#‎muhindi‬) represent the children of the community, the ‪#‎mazao fruit/crops-represents the communities’ productivity. 

I made a #homemade #Kinara, which is the candle holder. I could not afford a wooden, traditional one and I went to over 15 stores to put this together!! It was so difficult finding green taper candles and impossible to find a black taper candle! Therefore, I used the candle pictured above. My hope (green) candles were shorter than my struggle (red) candles, so I found taller candle holders. I think it came out wonderful! It only cost me $20 to put it together 🙂 I strongly suggest if you cannot afford a Kinara, make one yourself.

Since I could not find a straw mat, I used a yellow and red ribbon to represent the Mkeka (or mat) which is symbolic of our tradition and history and therefore, the foundation on which we build. In addition, the Kikombe cha Umoja (The Unity Cup) is symbolic of the foundational principle and practice of unity which makes all else possible, is not displayed. I will upload it in the next blog when I light our next candle 🙂

Have an amazing evening and #HAPPY KWANZAA!!

***(I found a lot of info from officialkwanzaawebsite.org and kwanzaalights.com***

 

 

Our first Kwanzaa! & Why we should celebrate it!

Dear bloggers,

I have happily convinced my boyfriend that this year we should celebrate Kwanzaa! He and I are not religious, we believe in a higher power and the universe’s energy.

In addition, we both descend from the African diaspora and strongly identify with Black culture. We also identify with Puerto Rican culture and the Spanish language, but first and formost we feel we are Black and we are proud of our mixed heritages. (His father is Jamaican and Panamanian. His mother is Puerto Rican. As for me, my mother is Puerto Rican and my biological father is Black and Puerto Rican). Also a fun fact about our Puerto Ricanness is that our Spanish is mixed with African tongues as we are mixed of Taíno, African and European blood! IMG_3089

(Shamik and I at Brighton Beach, Brooklyn, NY: Summer 2015)

Yes, you get it we are Black and we are PROUD!

So we definitely did not care to celebrate Christmas, but I thought about Kwanzaa and wanted to understand what it really meant. I did my research and decided we must celebrate our African heritage.

  • Kwanzaa CELEBRATES and HONORS our African heritage. 
  • Anyone can celebrate it, no matter their religion or if they are non-religious!
  • It celebrates 7 principles (Nguzo Saba ) that we should carry out all year round
  •  Each of the seven days of Kwanzaa is dedicated to one of the following principles(which are written in Swahili and English, as follows: (These are written to my understanding)

    • Umoja (Unity): To strive for and to maintain unity in our families, communities, and the human race.
    • Kujichagulia (Self-Determination): To define ourselves, name ourselves, create for ourselves, and speak for ourselves.
    • Ujima (Collective Work and Responsibility): To build and maintain our community together by making our brothers’ and sisters’ problems our problems, and then to solve them together.
    • Ujamaa (Cooperative Economics): To build and maintain our own stores, shops, and other businesses and to profit from them together. This is a must!
    • Nia (Purpose): To make our collective careers the building and developing of our community in order to restore our people to their traditional greatness.
    • Kuumba (Creativity): To always do as much as we can, in the way we can, in order to leave our community more beautiful and beneficial than we inherited it.
    • Imani (Faith): To believe with all our hearts in our people, our parents, our teachers, our leaders, and the righteousness and victory of our struggle.

    These are all values that we should always practice and not only commemorate the week of Kwanzaa, December 26-January 1st, but it is such an awesome, uniting reminder!

    To continue, hopefully tonight we will go out to buy supplies to make our Kinara (candle holder) because we are college students on a budget!

    Please follow me on our journey of our first Kwanzaa! I will be posting each time I prepare or have a thought about preparation. I will also post how to celebrate it as I prepare. Remember it is my first year and I am learning as we go 😉

    There are 20 days until Kwanzaa and I am ecstatic!

  • Feel free to leave comments or suggestions to make our first Kwanzaa super special!!
  • Your thoughts matter 🙂

A is for Activist by Innosanto Nagara (A MUST READ children’s book)

As I was on a social media site, a close friend and academic colleague of mine, posted a page from this book. The picture book displayed the text “Indigenous and Immigrant,” these words caught my attention at first sight. It did not cross my mind that this picture book was for children under the age of 10, or 5! In fact, I could hardly believe it was a picture book at all. As a child of the mid/late 90’s and early 2000’s, I did not hear these words read to me nor read it outside of a history text book. My search began, to learn more about this picture book!

I immediately googled the title and author and found this site to hear the read aloud on a youtube video. http://www.aisforactivist.com/a-is-for-activist-english/

It is only a 7 minute video, and the depth of this book is amazing, it touches on everything from feminism to Malcolm X, and more! Each letter of the alphabet does not mention your repetitive apple, ball and zebra protocol, rather a radical text to create true critical thinkers for all.

To have the opportunity to share such important factors of our rapidly changing society at a young age, fills me with much happiness. As a child, I did not have this opportunity, but the progression we are making proves to me, that the fight for equality will eventually win.

Our stories must be told for everyone to hear, share this with a loved one, even your toddler to help create a better world for all.

Much love xoxo

“7 things I can do that my black son cannot” Must read, clink link!y s

The written article below is powerfully well written. It discusses how this white father cares dearly for his son and daughter and the struggles they will face. A must read, once I find the essay I will post a link to it. Happy reading, HAPPY SATURDAY!

https://www.yahoo.com/parenting/7-things-i-can-do-that-my-black-son-cant-99408985077.html?soc_src=mags&soc_trk=copy